The Myth of Male Power by Dr. Warren Farrell helps each family member understand that genuine power is neither status nor money, but “control over one's life.” He documents that virtually every society that has survived has done so by persuading its sons to be disposable–whether in war or in work; and therefore indirectly as dads. And disposability is not power.
Dr. Warren Farrell has been interviewed repeatedly by Oprah, Barbara Walters and on more than 1000 TV and radio shows. The Financial Times selected him as one of the world’s top 100 Thought Leaders. John Gray (Mars/Venus) ranks him as the world’s most knowledgeable person about men. And Dr. Farrell feels The Myth of Male Power is his best book.
Considered the Bible of men's studies—yet highly empathetic to women (Dr. Farrell was also on the Board of the National Organization for Women in NYC)– the meticulously researched The Myth of Male Power takes the listener on a captivating journey around the world, throughout history, biology, the Bible, the law, and everyday life, challenging every currently-held assumption about men, women and the family.
To communicate this, Dr. Farrell re-wrote the highlights of the entire book in dialogue form, responding to questions in his own compassionate voice. It’s like asking him questions at a party—making it a fascinating listen for a family trip.
To help each family member appreciate parents and grandparents, Farrell shares, “in the past, for the great majority of the population, neither sex had power; both sexes had roles: women's role: raise children; men's role: raise money. Our grandparents didn't preach rights–they preached responsibilities and obligations.” Both moms and dads sacrificed with one goal and hope: that their children's lives would be better than theirs.
If a family member is reconsidering her or his career, Dr. Farrell reviews the trade-offs of different paths: “The road to high pay is a toll road–tolls such as working more hours or taking jobs that are less-fulfilling that tend to pay more because fewer people want to do them.”
Dr. Farrell inspires men with the courage to question their traditional version of power: “feeling obligated to earn money someone else spends while he dies sooner.” He writes that if the rules were designed to solely benefit men, then women would be praised for desiring and initiating sex with men, be the sex expected to pay on dates and buy men diamonds; there would be female-only draft registration; and post-divorce, moms would be the sex most likely to lose their home and children.
On the other hand, Dr. Farrell explains, neither did women have the power. The dominating force was survival. In the industrialized world, our parents’ and grandparents’ success has allowed this generation the potential to move beyond survival—from role mates to soul mates.
If you want yourself or your children to make decisions about love and life in a much more conscious way, and wish for your family’s discussion to be open and honest, The Myth of Male Power will catalyze that process. (Dr. Farrell gives a 100% refund if it doesn’t generate one of your family’s most engaging and valuable discussions.)