Couples’ Communication

by
 
Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
The Crossings, Austin, TX
June 5 – June 8, 2008

I’ve never heard someone say, “Warren, I want a divorce—my partner understands me.”

At the deepest level, most coupled individuals do not feel understood by their partners. Promises of honesty and love begin to fade when we express genuine feelings that our partners perceive as criticism. Criticism begets criticism, and soon the fear of escalation leads to stuffing feelings and “walking on eggshells.” The children consume too much time for unraveling the feelings, even as they also create a reason to stay together. The result: Couples remain legally married but psychologically divorced, developing a “silent deal” that looks too much like our parents’ and not enough like the initial promise.

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How Women Shortchange Themselves February 20, 2005
by Rich Heintz
 
Every year, a new report documents the significant salary disparity between men and women. While women have made steady progress over the years, the Bureau of Labor Statistics reports that women still earn only 80 cents for every dollar men make.

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Sunday, February 20, 2005
San Francisco Chronicle
 
-Marty Nemko

For decades, we in the media have told the public that women earn less than men. As a result, we’ve created a generation of angry women and self-conscious men.

A new book, Why Men Earn More by Dr. Warren Farrell, shows we’ve been dead wrong: that for the same work, women earn more than men. His findings are based on a comprehensive review of government and other statistics.

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BY BETTINA ARNDT
Nickels and dames
February 16, 2005
 
Do men really earn more than women? Or do they just work harder and smarter – and sacrifice more?

Thirty years ago, Warren Farrell wrote books about the benefits to men of women’s liberation. He often wore a “59¢” badge – calling attention to the wage gap at the time between men and women. But then he found himself wondering about that gap: “If an employer had to pay a man one dollar for the same work a woman could do for 59¢, why would anyone hire a man?”

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AT LUNCH WITH WARREN FARRELL
Are Women Responsible for Their Own Low Pay?
 
By CLAUDIA H. DEUTSCH
Do you think that Lawrence H. Summers, Harvard’s president, stirred up a hornets’ nest by suggesting that women’s brains are not genetically wired for math or science? Wait until you hear Warren Farrell on the subject of women’s pay.

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Special Issue on Careers
March 21, 2005
By John Leo
Of men, women, and money
 
Do men earn more money than women in comparable jobs with comparable responsibility? Most people seem to think so. During one of the presidential debates, John Kerry complained that full-time working men made a dollar for every 76 cents paid to women for the same work. President Bush didn’t challenge the statement, and reporters let it go by as well. “The average woman is cheated out of about $250,000 in wages over a lifetime,” said an article in Ms. Magazine. The AFL-CIO estimates that working families lose $200 billion of income annually to the male-female wage gap.

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Opinion
Are Women Earning More Than Men?

Warren Farrell
May 12, 2006

New York -When I was on the board of directors for the National Organization for Women in New York City during the 1970s, I led protests against the pay gap. I wore a “59 Cents” pin to reflect my objection to the discrimination I felt was the cause of women earning only 59 cents to each dollar earned by men. Now, since I’m a husband and father, discrimination against women isn’t just political, it’s personal.

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Where Warren Will Be section:
March 6 – Boston

“What Every Dad, Mom and Judge Needs to Know About the Importance of the Biological Dad”
Fathers and Families at the Thayer School in Brocton in Thompson Hall from 7-9 PM.
www.fathersandfamilies.org

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By Warren Farrell, Ph.D. (www.warrenfarrell.com)

For more depth, see In The Best Interests of the Child and Father And Child ReunionThe Unspoken—and often Unconscious—Contributions of Dads

Prior to doing the research for Father and Child Reunion, I knew dads were more likely to play, coach and roughhouse with their children. I did not know that in comparison to children raised by single moms, children raised by single dads are more likely to be assertive without being aggressive. (My expectation was that rough-housing might contribute to aggressiveness, not assertiveness.) Assertiveness without aggressiveness is one of the key qualities to being successful in work and life. It leads to better social skills and more friends; more self-confidence and less depression; less acting out…

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By Warren Farrell, Ph.D. (www.warrenfarrell.com)

For more depth, see In The Best Interests of the Child and Father And Child Reunion

The Family Arrangements that Work Best for Children

Father and Child Reunion (2001) is a meta-analysis of hundreds of studies from the U.S. and other countries. Many of the studies look at what leads to children doing the best and worse after divorce. The documentation for these findings is in Father and Child Reunion.These are the family structures ranked according to the ones in which children do the best—the last three after divorce:

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