with
Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
at
Esalen
September 3-5, 2010
I’ve never heard someone say, “Warren, I want a divorce—my partner understands me.”
The Achilles’ heel of humans is our inability to handle personal criticism from our loved ones. The more we are in love, the harder it is to handle. Soon, though, the couple feels they are “walking on eggshells”–and the love fades. The same recession that magnifies a couple’s differences raising money and raising children also inhibits divorce. The result? The couple remains legally married but psychologically divorced—in a minimum-security-prison marriage.
The biggest culprit is defensiveness. Active listening, the best solution, is rarely used. Dr. Farrell developed “Cinematic Immersion” to allow couples to actively listen to their partner without feeling defensive. Once the defensiveness is replaced by feeling loved, he works on the discipline of appreciating each other. As both are employed, passion is reignited without sacrificing stability.
As Cinematic Immersion and the discipline of love are mastered with our partner, Dr. Farrell teaches each participant to apply it to other family members and colleagues at work.
Open only to couples (any two people with a history together [e.g., parent-child] who desire a future with improved communication).
Bio: Warren Farrell’s books include Why Men Are the Way they Are, the best-seller on finding the right partner, as well as Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, a Book-of-the Month Club selection on couples’ communication. He has published in twelve disciplines, and appeared on more than 1,000 TV and radio shows worldwide. www.warrenfarrell.com.
Required reading: Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, chapters 1-3.
CEU credits available for psychologists, MFTs, LCSWs, and nurses.