The Evolution of Love: From Role Mate to Soul Mate, Part I
On New Year’s Eve, I (and other speakers, such as Deepak Chopra) was honored to give one of the keynote presentations at an international conference of integral spiritual leaders, aligned with Ken Wilber’s pioneering work on integral thinking. The topic was “The Future of Love.” The presentation engendered an intense standing ovation, so I thought I’d share it with you. Let me know your thoughts at warren@warrenfarrell.com.
Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
Esalen,
July 23-25, 2010
The single most important decision we make is the choice of our partner. It affects our happiness and health, our spirituality and wealth, as well as where we live our life, and the children to whom we give life. Yet the very chemistry that creates that choice often comes with the characteristics that undermine intimacy.
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September 3-5, 2010
I’ve never heard someone say, “Warren, I want a divorce—my partner understands me.”
The Achilles’ heel of humans is our inability to handle personal criticism from our loved ones. The more we are in love, the harder it is to handle. Soon, though, the couple feels they are “walking on eggshells”–and the love fades. The same recession that magnifies a couple’s differences raising money and raising children also inhibits divorce. The result? The couple remains legally married but psychologically divorced—in a minimum-security-prison marriage.
2010 BOOK REVIEW: Father and Child Reunion by Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
from Nathan Greenberg
This book review has been a long time coming. Dr. Farrell was kind enough to send a copy and I couldn’t wait to begin. Just before making contact with Dr. Farrell, the ProActiveDads team was beginning to think about a set of principles or guidelines that defined (in bullet point format) what we were about. What we were trying to accomplish. After reading this book, that task became much easier. With each turn of a page, I was engrossed with new facts, new ideas, new statistics, and new revelations about fatherhood and our perception in this world. To sum it up: this book is our bible. This book is our mission.
When a man loves a woman
By Ty WengerRedbook
September, 2009
Excerpts:
“Men do affection in ways that are not easily recognizable to women,” explains couples coach Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author of Why Men Are the Way They Are. “The fundamental difference is that men tend to do, and women tend to talk–and much gets lost in translation. He feels frustrated, misunderstood; she feels like he just doesn’t care. If you can learn to read the signals he’s trying to send, however, he’s going to feel like his method of loving is being appreciated. He’ll probably feel like a good person. And then he’ll be more open to hearing something else–like how he could be even better…”
THE CINEMATIC IMMERSION METHOD”OF COUPLES’ COMMUNICATION:THE SEVEN MINDSETS THAT CREATE THE ART AND DISCIPLINE OF LOVE
Part II
by
Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
For the principles behind “cinematic immersion,”
see Warren Farrell,Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say
The dilemma of almost every intimate relationship is that, on the one hand, no long-term intimate relationship blossoms without each partner being able to express tough-to-hear feelings without “walking on eggshells.” And, on the other hand, almost no one can hear criticism from a loved one without becoming defensive–thus increasing everyone’s feeling that it isn’t safe to express our true selves.
THE CINEMATIC IMMERSION METHOD” OF COUPLES’ COMMUNICATION: THE SEVEN MINDSETS THAT CREATE THE ART AND DISCIPLINE OF LOVE
Part I
by Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
For the principles behind “cinematic immersion,”
see Warren Farrell,Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say
Falling in love is natural; sustaining love is unnatural. Which is why sustaining love requires both an art and discipline: The art of love. And the discipline of love.
Was this picture taken before or after the workshop?
Some participants’ unsolicited experiences
“So I am finally getting back to you regarding the workshop Ron and I took with you at Esalen the weekend of May 14-16. Well Ron and I had our first “care and share” meeting the very next weekend, May 22, in the evening. We scheduled the meeting and followed through with actually talking!
by
Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
Esalen,
March 26-28, 2010
The single most important decision we make is the choice of our partner. It affects our happiness and health, our spirituality and wealth, as well as where we live our life, and the children to whom we give life. Yet the very chemistry that creates that choice often comes with the characteristics that undermine intimacy.
The differences between John McCain and Barack Obama run much deeper than policy. McCain and Obama represent different types of masculinity in the same way that Nancy Reagan and Hillary Clinton represent contrasting femininities.